Starting university can be both exciting and overwhelming. A knowledgeable UWC psychologist provides helpful advice for parents on how to support their children during this transition.
Western Cape, South Africa (13 January 2025) – Embarking on the journey of going to university can be quite a ride – a real rollercoaster, as I’m sure some would agree.
From the initial anticipation of awaiting the acceptance confirmation of your desired institution following the release of matric results to the exciting preparations of life away from home and finally getting to immerse yourself in the knowledge of your desired career. It’s an exhilarating yet stressful period that looks different for everyone.
While the idea of making new friends, embracing a new life chapter and becoming a more dynamic version of oneself is exciting, I can personally recall being overwhelmed by the various administrative tasks, carefully choosing my modules, navigating extensive study materials, attending full lecture halls, and managing the unexpected pressure to have everything figured out!
While the change brings the promise of fun times, ditching boring uniforms, independence and delving into the things that ignite your passions – what many students may not anticipate is the difference in the life demands and teaching styles from high school to varsity.
According to the University of Western Cape’s Head of Therapeutic Services and Psychologist Rone Gerber, parents can play a practical role in supporting their children in preparing for their first year of university.
While great academics are key, Gerber notes that preparation starts at home, with parents playing a key role in fostering independence and resilience in their children.
With most universities welcoming students in February, Gerber offers the following advice to help families navigate the transition:
Encourage Independence Early
The transition from the structured high school environment to the independent university life can be overwhelming. To prepare, encourage your child to take charge of their studies, budget, and personal challenges. This fosters confidence and self-reliance.
Stay Engaged, Not Overbearing
Gerber shares that it’s important to let your children make their own decisions and mistakes so that they can learn from their experiences. As students gain independence, parents should transition from being managers to mentors by offering guidance.
Normalise Mental Health Conversations
Many young people will agree that being at university has tested their ability to keep afloat, particularly when facing academic pressure and the challenges of living away from home.
Parents are advised to have open conversations about mental health, which is crucial.
“Remind your child that seeking help is a strength,” Gerber advises.
Prepare Financially Together
University brings financial pressures, from tuition to everyday living expenses. Gerber suggests involving children in budgeting discussions to teach financial literacy and long-term independence.
Promote Resilience
Remind your child that setbacks are part of the learning process. Most, if not all, universities have academic and personal support systems in place to help students bounce back and grow stronger from challenges.
Sources: University of Western Cape
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