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The Girl in the Sunflower Dress wrote a piece about what 20 looks like and well, it’s a melting pot of different things so don’t stress about how it looks.


We have all either been a 20-something, know a 20-something, are a 20-something or are currently parenting a 20-something. It is a weird phase of life where one minute you are able to be in a club until 4 am and then head on over to work after a greasy meal and a power nap, and the next, faced with the responsibilities of paying rent and saving for friends weddings.

In fact, it is different for every person at every stage of life. Our resident Good Things Guy Brent read the piece below and made a pretty profound statement about it, it’s true for not only the 20-somethings but every age bracket that follows as well!

“Think this is so true… but not just for our 20s. The piece resonates with so many because this could be you in your 30s, 40s, 50s or even 60s. There is no set age norms or expectations for any age & everyone’s “normal” is different!” – Brent Lindeque

This is what she wrote and it is pretty darn powerful. Take a read below.

I think the confusing thing about our 20s is that for the first time in our lives there aren’t set age norms and expectations to rate our success on.

I have friends who own houses, friends renting and friends still living in their childhood bedroom. I have friends working 3 jobs, friends who own their own business and friends who have never worked a day in their lives. Friends who have graduated university now working their dream jobs and friends who still have no idea what they’re going to do for a career. I have friends backpacking the world and friends who have never left the country.

I have 56 friends who are parents. 13 friends that are engaged, 5 who are married and 2 that are divorced. Yet, I still have friends that have never been in a relationship, and that’s okay too.

3 of my friends have had their lives taken at the hands of someone else, 4 have taken their own lives and many more have been involved in horrific accidents. Yet, some of my friends have never felt grief strangle their heart.

See, the thing about our 20s is that there is no right or wrong, no better or worse and most importantly, no-one is better than anyone else. Life isn’t a race – we are each on our own path. So, next time you judge another or compare yourself to someone else, please remember they’re doing their best for their journey, and so are you.

What are your thoughts? Does it resonate with you too?

Sources: Dani Cook / The Girl in the Sunflower Dress
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Tyler Leigh Vivier is a writer for Good Things Guy.

Her passion is to spread good news across South Africa with a big focus on environmental issues, animal welfare and social upliftment. Outside of Good Things Guy, she is an avid reader and lover of tea.

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