Mamma J – I love you, I do not say this enough, and this year I have not had the opportunity to hold you and tell you this face-face. You are my hero and the most precious gift this world has shared with my family in this lifetime.
Cape Town, South Africa (22 September 2020) – A passionate South African shared a heartfelt open letter to his “other mom” who has given him love for the last 40 years, and someone who he has not been able to see due to the South African lockdown.
Rudolph Wagenaar shared the open letter to his Facebook after his entire family from Johannesburg travelled to Nelspruit to visit his grandmother – another family member who had been in complete isolation since March this year.
They all had to take COVID-19 tests to keep Ouma safe, and they had a great time visiting her, but it was the photo of Mamma J by her bedside that inspired Rudolph to send her some love.
Read it below:
Today I want to pay homage to my mother – not by birth but by heart and by love.
Mamma J – you are a part of my being, you shaped and moulded me into the person that I am today. This picture of you holding the hand of my grandmother warms my heart as we are thousands of kilometres apart.
The past 40 years have seen so many twists and turns – the most difficult when we buried my mother, my pain was your pain, your disappointment with yet another year’s failed RDP house application my disappointment – we have built together, and we have cried together over these past four decades.
I clearly remember the day you arrived at our home as a young unmarried new employee, the drama when your husband in later years slept over, and my mum had to sneak him out of the neighbourhood in the boot of our car.
The years you raised your own children with us till they were old enough to return to rural Limpopo and attend school.
As an adult with my own household, I will never be in a position to properly thank you enough (all the money in the world will still fall short) for the many countless sacrifices that you have made to raise me at your own expense.
Mamma J, you prayed on your knees with us as children – your faith as a member of the Zion Christian Church has left a deep impression over the years. You gave me the love that was due to your own children.
Mamma J – I love you, I do not say this enough, and this year I have not had the opportunity to hold you and tell you this face-face.
I am simply grateful that you are a part of me and today – as young adults – your own children are studying in the big city – staying with our family again and raising their own little ones, while you are there so hug and love them and see them grow up – together with my sisters’ kids.
You are my hero and the most precious gift this world has shared with my family in this lifetime.
Rudolph gave us permission to repost the letter here.