Brianna Wiest Self Care Mental Health
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Brianna Wiest is teaching the world that self-care CAN be salt baths and chocolate cake, but it takes a lot more to get to the point where you can enjoy the things that “fill your cup”.

 

Johannesburg, South Africa (14 January 2020) – Author Brianna Wiest recently wrote, “True self-care is not salt baths and chocolate cake, it is making the choice to build a life you don’t need to regularly escape from,” and we cannot agree with her more.

Because self-care CAN be salt baths and chocolate cake, but it takes a lot more to get to the point where you can enjoy the things that “fill your cup”. True self-care involves some components that are not necessarily self-indulgent.

The self-care post written by her has recently been trending all over social media, sometimes not even linking back to her, so when a user submitted the piece to us, we thought we would give you some background to who this incredible author is!

Wiest is an American writer and poet. She is best known for her prolific work on emotional intelligence.

The writer graduated from Elizabethtown College. Her published works include the books 101 Essays to Change the Way You Think, The Truth About Everything, and The Human Element, all of which are composed of essays that she wrote for the Thought Catalog website. She also has a poetry book Salt Water published by TC Books.

Brianna Wiest is teaching the world that self-care CAN be salt baths and chocolate cake, but it takes a lot more to get to the point where you can enjoy the things that "fill your cup".
Photo Cred: Brianna Wiest

Self-care is often a very unbeautiful thing – Brianna Wiest

It is making a spreadsheet of your debt and enforcing a morning routine and cooking yourself healthy meals and no longer just running from your problems and calling the distraction a solution.

It is often doing the ugliest thing that you have to do, like sweat through another workout or tell a toxic friend you don’t want to see them anymore or get a second job so you can have a savings account or figure out a way to accept yourself so that you’re not constantly exhausted from trying to be everything, all the time and then needing to take deliberate, mandated breaks from living to do basic things like drop some oil into a bath and read Marie Claire and turn your phone off for the day.

A world in which self-care has to be such a trendy topic is a world that is sick. Self-care should not be something we resort to because we are so absolutely exhausted that we need some reprieve from our own relentless internal pressure.

True self-care is not salt baths and chocolate cake, it is making the choice to build a life you don’t need to regularly escape from.

And that often takes doing the thing you least want to do.

It often means looking your failures and disappointments square in the eye and re-strategizing. It is not satiating your immediate desires. It is letting go. It is choosing new. It is disappointing some people. It is making sacrifices for others. It is living a way that other people won’t, so maybe you can live in a way that other people can’t.

It is letting yourself be normal. Regular. Unexceptional. It is sometimes having a dirty kitchen and deciding your ultimate goal in life isn’t going to be having abs and keeping up with your fake friends. It is deciding how much of your anxiety comes from not actualizing your latent potential, and how much comes from the way you were being trained to think before you even knew what was happening.

The act of self-care has become yet another thing women are expected to be good at. Did you use the right filter for that ‘gram of your impeccably prepared acai bowl? Are the candles you just lit in your Snap story made from organic hand-poured soy or are they that mass-produced factory shit? And how can we stem the inevitable capitalist tide from turning something as simple as self-care into yet another thing to be bought and sold? These are all things I wrestle with as I order Dominos in sweatpants under the guise of ‘being good to myself.’ – quote via Amil Niazi

If you find yourself having to regularly indulge in consumer self-care, it’s because you are disconnected from actual self-care, which has very little to do with “treating yourself” and a whole lot do with parenting yourself and making choices for your long-term wellness.

It is no longer using your hectic and unreasonable life as justification for self-sabotage in the form of liquor and procrastination. It is learning how to stop trying to “fix yourself” and start trying to take care of yourself… and maybe finding that taking care lovingly attends to a lot of the problems you were trying to fix in the first place.

It means being the hero of your life, not the victim. It means rewiring what you have until your everyday life isn’t something you need therapy to recover from. It is no longer choosing a life that looks good over a life that feels good. It is giving the hell up on some goals so you can care about others. It is being honest even if that means you aren’t universally liked. It is meeting your own needs so you aren’t anxious and dependent on other people.

It is becoming the person you know you want and are meant to be. Someone who knows that salt baths and chocolate cake are ways to enjoy life – not escape from it.


Sources: User Submitted | Brianna Wiest 
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