With school year-end holidays just around the corner, the much-needed break for the little ones and youngsters can present unique challenges, headaches and stress for some parents. But, don’t despair! A knowledgeable psychologist has some expert advice on how to make the most of this time by finding a balance between playtime, bonding and routine.
Western Cape, South Africa (25 November 2024) – School’s out, and the kids are ready to take on the world (or at least their home). But how can parents ensure that this break is both fun and productive?
University of Western Cape (UWC) Psychologist and Head of Therapeutic Services, Rone Gerber, has some expert advice (or saving grace for some, Lol). While it’s tempting to let loose and forget all the rules, maintaining a bit of structure can actually help kids relax and recharge.
Gerber instead stresses the importance of maintaining good routines for children as they help provide a good sense of security.
“You can relax the schedule a bit – bedtime an hour later or skipping the occasional bath – but try to maintain a rhythm,” says Gerber.
She adds that consistency in routines helps children feel grounded.
“Let them know it’s a holiday by slightly bending the rules, but don’t throw everything overboard. This helps them enjoy the break without feeling disoriented.”
Children thrive on play, and Gerber highlights its therapeutic power. Playtime is essential! Let the kids run wild, whether it’s building sandcastles, splashing in the pool, or simply exploring the great outdoors. And don’t forget about quality family time. Baking cookies, playing board games, or simply chatting can create lasting memories.
The holidays offer a unique opportunity to instil values of empathy and generosity. Gerber suggests:
“Involve children in giving back. Ask them, ‘Which of your toys can we donate?’ or let them help an elderly neighbour clean their garden. These acts of kindness build self-esteem and a sense of worth.”
For older kids, striking a balance between freedom and responsibility is key. Navigating adolescence can feel like walking a tightrope, but Gerber offers a balanced approach by allowing children to form their own identities and making an effort to stay engaged with them.
“Set clear rules, but allow room for negotiation. Reward trustworthiness with greater freedom and tighten boundaries when necessary. It’s a constant balance, but it helps them develop responsibility and critical thinking,” Gerber explains.
By balancing fun with structure, encouraging creative play, and making space for genuine connections, families can end the year on a high note and lay the foundation for an even stronger relationship in the year ahead.
Sources: University of Western Cape
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