The festive season can feel lonely when spent alone, but it doesn’t have to be. With small acts of connection, kindness, and self-discovery, this time of year can become a celebration of joy, purpose, and meaningful moments.
South Africa (24 December 2024) – The festive season is often painted as a time of togetherness, overflowing with shared meals, joy, family traditions, and laughter.
But for those spending the holidays on their own, it can sometimes feel like the world has pressed pause, leaving a daunting sense of loneliness. The good news? It doesn’t have to be this way. This time of year holds incredible potential for meaningful connection, whether it’s with yourself, loved ones far away, or your community.
Megan Gonsalves, Netcare Akeso’s Crisis Line Manager, believes that the holidays can still be joyful and fulfilling, even when spent solo.
“Even if you are spending the festive season on your own this year, there are many meaningful ways to stay connected and embrace the joy of the season,” she says.
The holidays can be the perfect moment to reconnect with yourself. Often, the year is so packed with commitments that personal dreams and hobbies are placed on the backburner. Gonsalves suggests using this time to explore your interests and immerse yourself in self-care.
“For a start, see this as a great opportunity to connect more with yourself. Spend some time on self-care and relaxation, tuning into your own physical and emotional needs,” she advises.
Whether it’s discovering a love for painting, finishing that novel you’ve been meaning to read, or simply indulging in a long walk, these moments of self-discovery can be truly enriching.
Distance can feel heavy when loved ones are far away, but technology offers an incredible bridge.
“If your family and friends are far away, technology can help. Try playing a game over a video call, sharing a virtual meal, or even watching a Christmas movie together. It’s an opportunity for shared laughter and joy,” says Gonsalves.
The festive spirit doesn’t need a plane ticket—it can thrive in the glow of a shared screen, filled with laughter and connection.
One of the most meaningful ways to combat loneliness is through generosity. Many organisations are in need of extra hands during the holiday season, and the act of giving can fill your heart with purpose and joy.
“Whether you are drawn to helping at a local soup kitchen, brightening someone’s day at a retirement home, or assisting an animal rescue, volunteering can keep you engaged and help you meet new people,” Gonsalves explains.
These moments of kindness not only uplift others but also create a deep sense of belonging and fulfilment.
Traditions don’t have to be shared or longstanding to hold meaning.
“Think about what brings you joy and meaning, and start your own traditions celebrating what is important to you,” Gonsalves encourages.
Whether it’s baking for a care facility, hosting a solo holiday movie night, or creating a scrapbook of gratitude, the possibilities are endless. Sharing these traditions with others—friends, neighbours, or even strangers—can also open the door to new friendships and a sense of community.
The festive season offers plenty of local activities and gatherings that are perfect for meeting new people. Check your community noticeboards or social media pages for events, and step out of your comfort zone.
“You may look back on this as the start of a new friendship or interest that could enrich your life for years to come—if you allow yourself to take the chance,” says Gonsalves.
For some, the holidays bring emotional challenges that can feel overwhelming. Gonsalves reminds us that there’s always someone to turn to.
“You never have to feel alone in a mental health crisis,” she says.
The Netcare Akeso 24-hour Crisis Line (0861 435 787) is available throughout the festive season, offering support and guidance when it’s needed most.
Whether you’re spending this festive season with others, volunteering, or simply enjoying your own company, the holidays are a time to celebrate love, kindness, and connection in all its forms. By opening your heart—to yourself, your community, or those far away—you can create moments that are deeply meaningful and wonderfully joyful.
Because the festive spirit doesn’t come from where you are—it comes from what you give and the love you share.
And that’s something truly worth celebrating.
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