The Month of Love typically focuses on the love we have for others. But what about the love we should be showing ourselves? Neurofeedback Specialist Kerry Rudman fills us in on practical tips for the self-love journey:
South Africa (16 February 2025) — Valentine’s Day is all about love, but have you ever considered that the most important relationship in your life is the one you have with yourself? The way we speak to ourselves has a profound impact on our mental and emotional well-being. Yet, many of us are our own worst critics, caught in a cycle of self-doubt and negative self-talk. The good news is that there are many tips when it comes to self-love, and a Neurofeedback Specialist is sharing some of them with all of us!
According to said Neurofeedback Specialist, Kerry Rudman, who is also the founder of Brain Harmonics, self-love is not just an airy-fairy, feel-good concept. In actual fact, it’s an essential for good mental health.
“The way we talk to ourselves shapes our thoughts, emotions, and actions. If we are constantly criticizing ourselves, it can lead to anxiety, depression, and low self-esteem. Learning to rewire our brains and develop self-compassion is key to overall well-being,” says Rudman.
For those who struggle with self-love, neurofeedback may offer a solution.
What is Neurofeedback?
Neurofeedback is a form of biofeedback that helps individuals train their brainwaves, improving focus, emotional regulation, and mental clarity. It has been successfully used to alleviate conditions like anxiety, depression, and ADHD.
“Neurofeedback allows people to recognize and change negative thought patterns at a neurological level. By training the brain to function more optimally, individuals can experience increased self-compassion, improved mood, and a greater sense of well-being,” explains Rudman.
Some people opt for non-invasive, painless procedures that place sensors on the scalp to measure brain activity and then help guide the brain to develop healthier patterns through real-time feedback. But there are also ways to improve your self-love with the knowledge of neurofeedback in mind, which you can do all on your own.
Challenge Your Inner Critic
If you wouldn’t say it to a friend, don’t say it to yourself.
Practice self-compassion
Treat yourself with kindness and understanding, especially in tough moments.
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Focus on your strengths
Make a list of your positive qualities and revisit it regularly.
Set realistic goals
Aim for progress, not perfection.
Prioritise self-care
Ensure you get enough sleep, eat well, and exercise.
Surround yourself with support
Spend time with loved ones who uplift you.
Engage in activities you enjoy
Do things that bring you joy and relaxation.
Forgive yourself
See mistakes as something to learn from, forgive yourself, and move forward without self-judgment.
Importantly, remember that self-love is a journey, not a destination. By making small changes in how we treat ourselves, we can all create a more positive and fulfilling life.
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